User blog:American che/"We're falling apart?"

So recently, a lot of users have quit, like Hyper, Fadhil, and Roads (temporarily).

The thing I've learned the hard way, guys, is that we can't make a big deal about people leaving. People are born and die every day; it's the same way with the wiki. People are going to quit, yes, and we're going to be sad, but then new users come and fill the gaps up, and we're all one big happy community again. We shouldn't have to fall to pieces just when a user quits, because honestly, what's the point?

Another thing I've learned the hard way is that you can't convince people to come back and you shouldn't attempt to. I know I've said this on quite a few blog posts before, but I'm going to say it again: Grabbing someone by the ankle and begging them "please don't leave" won't do anything to change their minds. Maybe one day they will come back and surprise you; but for now, they're gone, so don't blow it up into a big brouhaha.

Just food for thought.

- American che {talk}  15:21, December 27, 2010 (UTC)